Not really a New Years resolution.
1. Less tweeting, status updating and posting. More nature, traveling and skateboarding.
One of the things I like about tumblr that I sort of despise about Facebook and Twitter is this feeling of having to post. I can spend a substantial amount of time on a timeline and be there for hours, when I only meant to be there a few minutes or so. Tumblr doesn’t give me this feeling. When I post or write, it’s because I want to, not because I feel like I have to keep up appearances. Crazy how social networking can make you feel like that, right?
Traveling. One of the reasons I’m glad I don’t have a girlfriend or children. I can literally pick up and go wherever, whenever I want. Last year, I spent a week in Brooklyn for the first time. I plan on going to Los Angeles sometime this year. This will also give me time to spend in nature. I love being outside, whether in cool or warm weather, I enjoy being out where I can feel the sun, or look up at the moon.
2. Stop feeling like I have to do something, or be something by a certain timeframe.
What’s with all these people who use what they have as a means of entitlement and authority over others? “I’m in a relationship and you’re not, so I’m better than you.” Or “I’m married, you’re not. I’m better than you.” Or “I have a house, you live with your parents. I’m better than you.” I have completely distanced myself from people I know who think like that, young and old alike. Who are you to tell people that they need to be or have something by a certain age? Everyone’s story is different. I’m on no one’s timeline but my own. I can be, think, or do whatever I want, and it doesn’t mean I’m better or worse than anyone. It just makes me human. You think Beyoncé or Jay-Z did something right because they’re married and you’re single? No. They’re just people. The older I get, the more I realize that everyone is winging it. No one knows what the fuck they’re doing. And the ones who think they know, are some of the dumbest people walking the earth.
3. I am not responsible for the way people view me.
Let me tell you how much of a complete waste of time it is to care about what people think. They don’t like you? That’s THEIR fucking problem, not yours. If they mistreat you, don’t seek vengeance or vindication, simply leave them be. There will be things in this world that require you to defend yourself, but defending yourself by trying to prove yourself, is just silly. You don’t have to pick up the phone every time it rings. You don’t have to answer every text message. You don’t have to care about the feelings of those who choose to dismiss you. And most of all, you do not have to explain yourself. You’re going to meet a lot of temporary people in life. Guard your heart and your mind. Always choose yourself. Listen to your intuition. Distancing yourself is necessary when there are people who don’t value who you are.
4. Embrace yourself. And everything you are.
A great deal of my 20’s was spent learning how to love who and what I am. Often I hid that from people, cause I was often labeled the “weird” guy, the “different one” and all those adjectives that meant other. But I have a pretty awesome life. I’m unconventional. And I like it that way. Don’t ever let people make you feel inadequate because you’re not them. Embrace who YOU are. Love yourself. Love your life. Continue pursuing and pushing yourself. You have no idea how many people in their 40’s and 50’s are still looking for themselves because they were so preoccupied with what people thought of them in their 20’s. Keep growing, but at your pace.